Starting a relationship is exciting and blissful as you get to learn new things about your partner. You hope that phase never ends but as you get to know each other better, familiarity sets in and you have to make a commitment to keep the relationship together. The honeymoon phase can’t last forever.
Everyone wants their relationship to blossom into forever ever after. Sometimes that happens, sometimes it doesn’t but if you are two adults in a loving relationship, you to put in some time and effort to make the relationship work when the excitement of a new relationship dies.
Your choice of partner could spell the death of your relationship even before you start dating. To get a suitable partner, you must have a clear idea of the qualities you would like that go beyond the physical characteristics.
Good looks are attractive for a fling but for a long-term relationship you should also consider other qualities like personality, character, values, and perceptions on parenting. Getting into a relationship with someone you don’t share any goals, value or vision with is a recipe for disaster and will almost surely end up in heartbreak.
Everyone is busy but if you want your relationship to work, you must create time for each other. There is nothing worse than filling lonely while you are in a relationship because your partner never has time for you.
It is not just the amount of time you spend together; it’s the quality of time you spend together that matters. The time you spend quarrelling and fighting doesn’t qualify for quality time. Go out to dinner as you used to do when you started dating, talk to each other and have meaningful conversations that go beyond checking on each other.
This is how you strengthen your relationship and make it last longer.
Don’t talk at or to each other – communicate with each other. Listen keenly to your partner when they are speaking. Don’t be on your phone checking out the latest news on Apexbeats.Com while your partner is talking to you.
Learn to communicate your feelings, opinions and needs to your partner. Don’t expect your partner to be a mind reader. More importantly, watch the tone with which you talk to your partner.
With better communication, you can understand each other better.
Learn to forgive and ask for forgiveness
One of the most important lessons you will learn in life is to apologize when you are wrong. To admit when you are wrong is the mainstay of a stable relationship.
It’s inevitable that you will wrong your partner during the course of your relationship and how you handle it will determine whether you are still in a relationship or not. No one wants to be in a relationship with a jerk who can’t apologize when wrong.
Similarly, you should also be able to forgive when wrong. If your partner apologizes and are truly remorseful, and you choose to forgive them, then move on from the incident and don’t bring it up in future arguments.