Last week, soon after Tori Spelling announced she is pregnant with baby number four, I stumbled across this post from Babble.
Basically, the post says that because she got pregnant only 4 weeks after giving birth to her third child, that she is making us look bad. That after having a baby, and having other kids, there should be no time for your husband.
“I’m really in awe that you actually cared what your husband thought at four-weeks postpartum.”
While, I can totally relate to the fact that right after having a child, you lose sleep, and are pretty much at the beck and call of this little person, mixed together with the fact that you also have two other children who need you, it can get pretty crazy.
I don’t agree that your husband should be at the bottom of your priorities list.
Of course, any understanding husband, would respect the fact that you are supposed to wait till the six week postpartum check up. It doesn’t mean you have to, or should.
For me, it has always gotten harder to have sex towards the end of the pregnancy. I mean face it, that big ole’ baby belly can quite often get in the way of things.
Now for me, it’s not a big deal to wait a month or two before having sex with my husband again. For him, and I’m pretty sure most men, they have a harder time. They are men after all.
I guess what I am trying to say, is that it is okay to care how your husband feels, and to want to have sex right after baby is born. It’s okay to have three kids, hardly sleep, but yet still want to be intimate with your husband or spouse, and make time for them too. It may not be easy, but probably worth it!