One thing that drives me absolutely crazy, especially since we got pregnant with Athena is hearing people say, “You know how that happens?” or “How many are you going to have? Twenty?”
Seriously…what is with people thinking that you should only have one or two kids and any more then that is crazy. Why?
For me, I have always wanted a family. A big family. I was an only child growing up and even my cousins live so far away, that I was always the only child in my family. There for, I knew when I started having my own children I wanted lots of them. Probably more then we will actually have, but I am one of those women that knew she would be a mom.
My husband on the other hand, is one of three kids. So after our second child was born, it took some time for him to come around to having a third child.
Last week Athena was born!
Our family and friends ask me, if we plan on having any more. The answer has been, “Yes, I want at least one more.” Probably just one more.
My husband has kept saying, “No way! No more!” I think mostly because he REALLY wants a boy and is scared if we have another one, it will be a girl too. Yes, scared. Like go bat shit crazy with all the hormones our house will hold, scared.
However, for the past couple of weeks I keep hearing little things like, “if” or “when” causally when we talk about moving into a bigger house before having another child. So secretly, I think he is okay with one more.
That said, no matter if we had just one child or end up with eight, that’s our choice. No one else’s and I suggest everyone learn to keep their mouth shout before saying something to someone else about how many kids they have or want.
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I love it! I want a big family but my husband wants a small family – only 2 kids. Like you, I am an only child and I want my son to grow up with lots of siblings! But I’ll be happy with just 2! ;-)
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I totally agree with you! I have three girls and am due in june with number 4 and people do say the funniest things. I live where a lot of people have big families but everyone is still funny about it. Ya gotta love inappropriate comments right? lol
Congrats on baby #4 Carly!!
That’s awesome that you want more. I agree, family planning should be left to that family that is planning it. LOL. We have two. We knew before we were married that we wanted two. Hubs is one of two. He wanted two. I am one of six. I wanted two. I’d be okay with a third, but I know it would be a financial struggle. I can be a homemaker and homeschooler with two. With three, I’d have to work outside of the home. So, we are fine with two. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard, “but don’t you just want one more?” I feel like my family is complete. THAT IS WHAT MATTERS. If you want more, and feel like your family would be more complete with one more, or twenty more, it should only matter to two people… you and your husband. As I’ve always said, unless they are supporting them, noone else should have an opinion on how many you have!
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you make em’ so dang cute, I stay keep going! the world needs smart and beautiful – and thats what you create!
xoxoxo
Haha, thanks Kim!! =)
Thank you for posting this! I am a mom to four boys (ages 6, 4, 2, and 3 month old) and you have no idea how many times we have had people ask if we are done and if we know how all these were made. From the start like you, I always knew I wanted a large family. I only had one sister growing up and my husband only had one brother. So we did not come from a large family ourselves but the love that I received from my first and then my second and so on…I couldn’t imagine not having all of my babies. They are truly blessings :)
Exactly!
good for you! My husband & I are both from families of 2 children and neither of us are terribly close to our sibling. Some of our family members have been so excited and wish we’d keep having baby after baby and then others think we’re crazy for getting pregnant with #3. We only plan to have 3 (may adopt more later, but this is my last pregnancy) and every one of them has been very much loved and wanted. We can more than afford to care for them and don’t rely on family/friends to babysit or anything else, so it has NOTHING to do with them. Have as many as you & your hubby want & can reasonably care for and ignore the criticisms!
Congrats on your pregnancy!!
Sometimes people shock me whit their stupidity, why I don’t know because cause I should know better. I came from a family of 2. I am like you I grew up knowing I wanted to be a mom. I wanted to have lots of kids. But I have to say that has changed but i still don’t look down on those who want many. I have friends with 5 kids and I think they are awesome! I know now it is not for me. More power to the people who can do it! And ditto the comment about making cute kiddos!
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People asked us that back in 2009 after our daughter was born. People see that you have a son and a daughter, and they automatically assume that your done? Why is that? I have no idea. Well, I am 12 weeks pregnant with baby #3! Almost everyone knows! I am so excited I can hardly stand it! I love my son and daughter, but having 3 babies to love, I can hardly wait! I always wanted 3 or 4 children. Yes, 4, lol. But My husband said 2. So I waited, and finally we had a serious talk this past summer and decided to try for one more before the end of the year. If it didn’t happen, we were done. Well, guess what!!! I guess this little one is meant to be!
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I admire you for wanting a big family! I thought I only wanted two, until I reached my late thirties! Now I wish I would have had more children. We have three, but I still want to add one more!
I’d love a big family too! I just have to get my hubs on board! Athena is BEAUTIFUL! You are a great mom.
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I think you have a beautiful family (just from the photos on your blog), and it is completely your choice and your husband’s and nobody else’s business!
I wanted 2 kids (I’m one of 4 and, though I wouldn’t trade any of my sisters, often felt like my mom’s attention was too divided), and my husband wanted 3 kids because he only has one sister. I told him we’d have a second and then see how we felt/discuss it more. Except I got pregnant with twins, so I guess we were destined to have 3 after all. ;) And of course now that they’re here I couldn’t imagine it any other way.
I’ve heard the comments too many times. And my poor husband! He has caught it big time from his guy friends. We have 4 children and I think it is wonderful. I can’t imagine my life without my house full of kids.
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I would love to have a team! However, we decided that we can only afford to have 2 -3 children.
I get that a lot, we have 6 kids and it drives me nuts when someone asks that.
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I casually said something to my mom the other week that it might be nice to have another child. I have a boy and a girl, ages 9 and 6. She was not happy at the suggestion. I didn’t mention the part that my husband and I are actually trying to have a baby, six months trying and nothing yet. However, I figure if she doesn’t want to be a part of the new baby’s life when we do conceive, then that is her issue.
Personally, I don’t understand why people need to be so negative all the time about family planning. In my my mind, it is my husband’s and my family, and we are planning it. I know my reasoning for wanting another baby right now might be a little selfish— I had my son a year after an accident that messed with my short-term memory so I don’t remember a lot. And due to crappy doctors, I had a horrible experience with my daughter’s pregnancy followed by not being able to find out what was wrong with her when she had actual health issues until we switch pediatricians a few times (it was acid reflux). I want to be able to have another baby where I get to enjoy being pregnant AND remember it :)
Considering where I live, I look forward to the negative comments because I love being sarcastic.
Also, you shouldn’t listen to what anyone says about you wanting more, the world needs more cute children like yours :)
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